3 Mystery Behind Children Who Destroyed Value

Here's an article that focuses on the patterns and learning problems of children. There are so many questions about it that appeared on our website, related to the child's learning problems. We will understand and learn about the psychological factors why children have problems with grades in school. Before we further interact, understand that the value or number (symbol) is not the only determinant of success later in the child's future. All were experienced when her school would not be used much later, so what would be the educational model used a child until she was an adult and could be inherited? Yes, educate and instill character early success in the field character.
Why does a child learn at home when you can, given the matter more difficult than in school can, even when in the tutoring he's given a lot of exercises that can also, though more difficult because you can, but when the replay value suddenly ugly. Well if you have ever had a problem like this? You who have elementary school children, would often run into problems like this. You definitely get annoyed to learn that your child is able to learn last night all, but when it turns out ulangannya can repeat grades. If this happens once or twice, maybe you can memakluminya, but if it happens repeatedly, you must start your child annoyance. It could even be you frustrated and then actually issued negative words.
Well what happens behind the issue. A child, who can work on the problems at home and then failed when he repeats. For the same things and many times, then there are three things you need to watch out for:
1. You have to suspect that a child is experiencing anxiety hidden
You must be not possible? He worried from where .... why scar he worried?
Hidden anxiety is caused by many factors. Yes, so it could be too high demands of our parents or maybe even from the teacher. This demand can not make the child shows optimal quality. So when the replay, what comes to mind is the fear that she could not fulfill tutuntan of the parents. Or demands from the teacher as possible. Well you know, when we were worried that we can not think jernih.Anda certainly never experienced it? when you're anxious, moderate stress. So trivial course can be forgotten. Well this happens to our children. They are worried because the demands were too high, or the necessity to master something.
When they feel inadequate, anxiety haunts his mind. And what they have learned before suddenly "blank", at the time of test. It also often happens to us. Do you remember when your first college? Maybe even in high school? When we repeat a sudden suddenly forgot the answer we have to write there. And last night we clearly have learned, it is. So when we are faced repeated suddenly lost the answer. Especially when the teacher or professor say 5 minutes you have to collect, and the time is up. Okay, the more we are forced finally we are stressed and eventually we forget. And oddly enough when we have collected the answer sheets, out of the exam room suddenly the answer came to mind. "Ahh .." why not from the last generation, you definitely grumbling to yourself. You have experienced it not?
Well this happens to our children. So when they are repeated, then they should not get worried. Demands - demands we are making them anxious. Therefore we need to self introspection, if as we have received them unconditionally. Yes, most of us hope that they are good value. But once the value of their ugly, we start demanding them. "Why do you value an ugly scar?" Rare is the parent who says, "oh yes, I can understand you na, what mama / papa can help your grades so that next time even better". So when a child has a bad value, the thing we need to do is to first understand his feelings. I'm sure kids too did not want bad value, not just us. He too did not want bad value indeed. But the reality of others.
When the value is bad, he's sad but we even scold him. He will feel that he is not understood and not understood. In another day of anxiety that arise in him. He will feel, "gee if I'm ugly again I definitely scolded again", "I would disappoint my mom." Once there was one case where a child does not want to go to school that day because of a test. He told my mom scared ma, "why be afraid?" Asked his mother. "I was afraid of disappointing my mom if bad value". And this is expressed by a child class 2 SD. Well, from the incident the mother learned that during this time, he used to say "mama nga problem with your values." But the fact she made her anxious. So often we as parents simply say, "no .. I do not issue any value scar ". But it was just lip service. in fact the child feel different, he felt the demands of parents who are too high.
Well, for this problem we need to correct ourselves better, how can we accept a child for what it is, regardless of its value. Remember actually worth it just indicates he may or belum.Berbahagialah when the value of your child ugly. For what? Now you know which one he was not able to. Good teaching should be aimed at improving a child so that he can be competent in the field. Not to label him smart or stupid.
2. Because the other was due to negative treatments had ever received a child could be at home, be at school.
For example, when a child is bad value, then we are angry-marahin him, perhaps even in the law. Have stood in the corner, do not be eating. Or anything else we can do for it. So when he received treatment, then the treatment will imprint on the memory. Next when he repeated it again on another occasion the clay on the sheet because he is not a matter that should be read, but the face of the angry parents. This face suddenly appeared looming in his mind. You can imagine if we are dealing with exam questions and then imagine the fear that arises is the face of parents who are angry, because we can not. Or maybe the teacher faces an embarrassing us in front of our friends. So all we learned suddenly became lost and eventually ulangannya ugly.
Well, if this is the case you should need to immediately apologize to your child. You simply say, "repeated the other day when you're ugly, and then papa or mama's mad at you when you feel something?" Anything in your child accept responsibility for what it is. Let him answer, I fear, I felt it was anything that you just say "Okay I'm sorry, Dad might say when it slipped. Or maybe at that mama loose control so scold you too deep. But it actually mean mama is very good. You would not forgive mama? Mama next time appointment will support you if the value you're ugly, we'll find a solution together, and you may ask to Mom how to make so its good value. You must kepengen you too well the value of it? "Well, it's certainly far better for the child. Instead we just scold him, asking him to learn, forced to learn without ever admit his feelings to be more loving care and to be received for what it is.
3. Another cause is the lack of attention to quality.
You may ask, "oh how could I not pay attention to my child." Yes, I trust and believe that any parent would notice anaknya.Tetapi sometimes the attention we give it does not match what is desired by the child, I mean the concern here is berkuwalitas attention. In a sense we also consider the child's feelings. Not Just pay attention to the tasks that he must slesaikan. Most of us only pay attention to the tasks that must be completed by a child. We just noticed you have homework yet? You've learned yet? pencil you've diraut yet? Tomorrow if you've got a pencil replications or bolpointnya? The book you have you siapin yet? we only pay attention to the physical aspects. We do not pay attention to those aspects of the child's feelings.
Though much attention will dibutuhkanseorang child is his feelings that he was really in full received by his parents. You can tune in berkuwalitas this better, by reading my article entitled "The Importance of Understanding the Emotional Needs Child". It is one of the best ways to provide quality care to your child.